Friday, January 24, 2014


Hi there! I Hope you guys enjoyed reading my blog articles. Thank you for keeping in touch with me with your emails and comments both on my blog and Facebook page, I really appreciate it. There's still so much that I want to add in both pages for you guys to enjoy and help you with your sexual concerns as well. Sex is fun and it wouldn't it be more fun if we know facts about it? Girls usually fall for good looks but guys with substance turns them on a lot. So guys with my generous heart I would like to announce that my “DID YOU KNOW?” page in my blog would be soon published. I would gladly share all of the facts and trivia about sex that who would know might come in handy for you guys. I would greatly appreciate if you also would send your comments and ideas about my page. Explore and enjoy. Love lots. :)

Wednesday, January 8, 2014


I woke up this morning giving it a time for myself what things that I haven't told you yet then suddenly it all came to me. I have never shared to you my tale of loosing my virginity. Hope you'll find it interesting and helpful as well.

My boyfriend and I lost our virginity together when we were both 15. I want to share my story with you.

I never thought when we started going out that I would lose my virginity to him. We were so young and it never even crossed my mind that I might fall in love with this guy. But I did, and looking back now, I don't think either of us really understood the love we had.

We had been going out for 4 months when we started discussing sex. We talked about our parents’ views,
contraception, what we would do if I fell pregnant and our own emotions and feelings about sex.

On 'that day', we went to the beach where we used to hang around a lot. Lying on our beach towels, the discussion turned to sex (yet again) and we decided then that we were both ready and comfortable enough with each other to take the next step (we had already been sexually active for sometime, but somehow actual 'sex' felt different).

We walked back to his house and went to his bedroom where we had showers and got into his bed where we had been making out for a while when he said,
"Do you wanna do it now?"

My heart skipped a beat and I started to panic.
"I'm not sure" I replied.

He accepted that, but I started to think 'Why not?' Everything's perfect, the way you wanted it, so what's the problem?
"Make love to me babe," I whispered, which kind of surprised him!
"Are you sure?" he said.
"Yep," I replied.

So he got out of bed, told his family we were having a private conversation and that they were to knock then wait for a reply. He shut the door and started opening his lamp.

"What are you doing?" I asked

"Condoms, no one's going to look in here!" he laughed, which made us both relax a bit.
He got one out, got back into bed and started putting it on. I lay on my back and thought. I wondered whether this was the right moment (I decided it was), whether I really wanted to do this (I decided I did), and whether I really was ready (I decided I was as ready as I would ever be). I was so uptight, I wasn't nervous because I felt so totally comfortable with him but I was just worried I guess - the way I am with anything when I do it for the first time.

He finished putting the condom on, rolled over and said,
"Are you sure you're ready?"

I took a deep breath before saying I was.
I kissed him slowly, and then gently maneuvered him on top of me and we froze in that position for a while, an unspoken gesture of 'this is our last chance to pull out'. We kissed again, then I reached down and guided him into me. I remember thinking 'what were they talking about, this isn't hurting at all', but the split second after that came 'OUCH!' Only the tip of him had been in me and when the rest followed, I felt myself ripping apart. This pain must only be rivalled by that of childbirth and I'm not trying to put anyone of having sex, what you must understand is first time sex is not painful for everyone but we didn't use lubricant, so that didn't help at all.

But oh, the pain. I have never felt anything this bad and I hope I never do again. I stopped myself from crying out, but couldn't stop a little moan escaping my lips. He stopped and asked if I wanted to stop but I thought I'm going to have to feel this sometime, it may as well be now, so I told him to keep going.

After about 5 thrusts, the pain stopped and I just felt him going in and out, in and out. I never felt anything orgasmic during sex, but the feelings were pleasant and knowing that my body was providing him with ecstasy was enough to make it good for me. I always enjoyed making love to him, even though I didn't get any physical pleasure from it myself.

It lasted about 15 minutes and during that time he was on top, then I was on top, then he was on top again. I always liked being on the bottom better, I loved feeling his weight on me and I didn't have to do anything, I could just relax and lie there and think about things.

Sex became my time to think. During those first few pain-filled moments, I almost transported myself out of my body to just above the bed so I could deal with the pain. The easiest way to explain it is being in a state of meditation. My body was taking part in the 'sex bit', but my mind could become separate and thinking of completely unrelated issues if I needed it to.

Sooner or later he started to thrust faster and faster and I felt all his muscles tense up and get tighter and tighter until he suddenly shuddered violently and pulled himself out. He got the condom off, we put our underwear on, then lay in each other’s arms exhausted.

What I remember most about it was how much we were shaking afterwards. Our hands and fingers were shaking like leaves in the wind, like they do when you are either really really cold, or really really nervous. All we wanted to do was be alone and take in what had just happened (it all seemed a bit surreal), but we were thrown back into the real world with a jolt, tea was ready and could we please come out and have something to eat.

So, that's how my first experience went. I'm sorry if anyone is offended by the graphic details but I wanted to make you feel as if you had been through it with me and to understand completely my point of view.

For months afterwards I struggled with my emotions, fought with myself inside my head about how I felt about myself and my boyfriend now we had crossed that line. Sometimes I used to hate him, hate myself, hated the people at school who never tell you enough about how sex really is, hated the movies and T.V. shows that show you sex as being wonderful and intimate. I was terribly confused but I survived and it really wasn't as bad as it sounds here written down. But what I believe now is you don't get enough information in sex education classes about how it really is and the emotions that come with sex. My aim now is to become a sex education teacher and teach teenagers the real bits, the things they do really need to know in order to have a loving, healthy, sexual experience.

Please don't go away thinking I am angry about how my first experience was or that I hate sex, because I count myself as lucky to had been with a guy who loved me and to have lost my virginity in a loving and wonderful way (even though I mightn't have described it like that). It is something I will remember and treasure forever.

Wednesday, January 1, 2014

***Hugs and Kisses***

Friday, October 25, 2013

It’s payback time!

Some guys have a lot of nerve – ex boyfriends specifically. They inquire if you want to have sex with them on
the side, while they are already in a relationship with another. An ex that cheated on me was asking if I wanted to make love to him. I agreed but I told him I’d have to punish him. He didn’t care what that meant.

So I checked in at some discreet place and texted him the room number. He was surprised to see my gay friend there - I said it was a threesome and it was his punishment! I told him that before he decided, he’d get to touch me first. He drowned his face into my ample breasts, sucking on them and futilely trying to get most of them into his mouth. He licked me everywhere until I climaxed. I kept on telling him not to stop, even if his tongue was already very tired, until I climaxed again. I told him I wanted more. He fondled me, I came again. I then found myself stroking his shaft and spitting on it for lubrication, it was so hard and engorged. My canal was also so wet and I had a very strong urge to shove it in, but I said he had to be punished first.

He was probably so horny at the time, too, so he finally agreed. I told him I didn’t want to watch, and that I’d wait in the room next door. I instructed him to call me when they were done – to his relief I guess. After some time he called me up and said they were done, and that my gay friend already left as he showered. I couldn’t stop laughing after I told him that I already went home, too. He cheated and broke his promise, and I just did the same – albeit in a different manner. And if he were ever to bother me, I would let his friends know what had just transpired.

Tuesday, June 25, 2013


Fact: It is harder for women to get in the mood. In case you haven’t noticed, we tend to need more “warming up” than you men, both physically and mentally. And so there are some tips from yours truly on how to turn on a woman.


A lot of men tend to go straight to the “hot spots” and expect women to get turned on right away. No, we don’t work that way. Start by gently rubbing her hair while kissing or rubbing her legs. With this, you will set the mood and without looking desperate to get laid.


A bit of dirty talk will help. Some guys don’t talk at all, some talk way too much. You have to find the place in between. Remember, not all compliments are a turn-on. So mix compliments with dirty talk like: “You look so sexy when you do [insert something not-so-obvious here].” She won’t know what you’re doing, but one thing’s for sure: She likes what she’s hearing.


Don’t forget there are other places you can kiss other than her lips, lest you appear boring to her. Explore and find which spots she likes being kissed on. The usual places: her neck, ear, and inner thighs; some even like being kissed on the eyes and forehead.


No matter how intense the foreplay is, you’ve got to keep in mind: You are a human being, not a robot. It’s okay to gradually stop in the middle of foreplay to tell her how much you love her. Being in touch with a woman’s emotions is very important.

Tip No. 5 : CUDDLE UP

Do you hug her after the act, or are you always in a hurry to put your clothes back on? Do you just turn around and sleep without talking and connecting with her? Don’t.

Sunday, April 14, 2013

How To Be A Chick Magnet?

Flirting tips are not going to help you if you can’t attract women to you in the first place. You can approach women easily, but if you’re not attracting them to you, you’re really not going to get very far when you start flirting with them. So what is it that guys who get tons of girls do? Here’s my tips on how to get women to flock to you.

Pay Attention To What Your Body Language Says To Girls

When a girl approaches you or you approach her, she’s going to size you up in about five seconds. She’s going to make a judgement about you based on several things, including the way you look, the way you dress and even how you smell. Your body language plays an important part in attracting women, because this is what will make you seem approachable to her or not. Subconsciously, she’s reading your body language to know if it’s okay to go up and talk to you or not.

Make sure that your body language communicates that you’re a strong, confident man, who is also friendly and fun to hang out with. When you’re flirting with a woman, you want to make a lot of strong, masculine gestures and also make sure that you’re not stooping over – if you have poor posture, you’re not going to look confident at all. Make sure your facial expressions convey a happy, confident and fun to be around personality – if you’re scowling the whole time, no girl is going to want to approach you or carry on a conversation with you.

Have Friends That Are Also Confident And Fun To Be Around

Who your friends are and who is in your social circle really says a lot about you, especially to a woman. When choosing friends, know that your friends really show who you are, so you want to make sure that you and your friends have similar ideals. If you’re hanging around a bunch of bullies or jerks, girls are going to think that you’re a bully or a jerk, even if you’re not. Your friends should be just as nice and friendly to others as you are.

Learn To Love Yourself

Women want to be dating confident men – they don’t want to be dating a wuss. So you want to project an air of self confidence and to do that, you must truly learn to love yourself for who you really are. Know that each person is special and unique (including you) and each person has something they can offer other people that no one else can. Each person is an individual and no two people are exactly alike. Learn to love yourself and be confident in what YOU can offer, because it’s special!

How To Break The Ice

You’ve got the first five seconds down, but now you actually have to talk to her! What do you talk to her about? How can you break the ice without choking up?

Start flirting with her. Engage her in conversation. Start by asking her questions. Don’t just ask questions like, “What do you think about the crazy weather we’ve been having lately?” That’s lame. Ask her intellectual questions about her, things around you or things that matter to her. For example, ask her what she is passionate about. No, not what her hobbies are or what sports she plays. Ask her questions that really make her think, like, “What is it that makes you want to wake up every morning?”

Talk About Your Passions

While you definitely want to break the ice by asking her about her passions first, there’s probably going to be an opening at some point for you to talk about what drives you. Be honest with her and let her know what you truly love and what really makes you tick. Hopefully, you and her share some of the same passions or at least ones that are similar so you can start building some common ground, which is essential when you start dating someone.

However, you’re never going to know if you and a girl would really hit it off unless you’re completely honest about your passions and what you love, even though it makes you more vulnerable to rejection. When it comes to dating, women know that a man is risking rejection each time he is flirting with a girl or asks a woman out. You can really make a difference by revealing yourself to a girl, instead of trying to be the guy you think she wants.

Stay Positive

Girls always remember how they feel when they meet a guy. She may not remember exactly what he looks like or exactly what he said, but if he made her feel great, she’s going to remember him and either be waiting for his call or be dialing his digits herself. If a guy makes her feel amazing, she’s definitely going to want to be dating him.

If you make women feel great when they’re around you, they’re going to remember you and want to hang out with you even more. If you’re a downer while they’re around, or if you’re pessimistic or constantly complaining about things, a woman is going to want to run for the hills at the first chance she gets. Even if you’re nervous, focus on flirting with her and making her laugh. Smile, relax and remember to have fun. Show her a good time and make her feel like she’s the only girl in the room. If you do, it’s pretty much guaranteed that you’ll score a date with her.

You’ve Got To Do More Than Talk

While you may be able to talk a good game, that’s not the only thing you have to do if you want to keep women you want to be dating coming back to you for more. Use body language and gestures to show a woman that you’re really interested in her. For example, you can look in her eyes just a few seconds longer than is comfortable and touch her arm while she’s talking to you or you’re talking to her.

If things are going really well between you and a girl, don’t be afraid to take it a step further. If you and her seem to be really hitting it off, don’t be afraid to take a risk and go in for a kiss. Even if you get rejected 10 times out of 11, all that really mattered was that you got 1 “Yes!”

Friday, September 7, 2012

The Boring Guy

I went on a first date with a guy. He seemed okay online, but I couldn’t get a good feel for him. I assumed he was perhaps shy and awkward–as nerds tended to be. He wasn’t horrible looking, and we had common interests. The Hot Nerd had also just gone on a date, so this motivated me to do the same.This new guy and I met for coffee. I suggested the shop as a convenient place.

I found this guy to be awkward and boring. I mean, even if we have common interests but you can’t talk about it in a way that interests me, you probably just suck. Am I right? The conversation was full of awkward pauses. I used a lot of filler words to prolong it, and I didn’t enjoy myself at all. After a short walk, we called it quits. I was ready to shake his hand and walk away, but he felt like an uncomfortable hug was better. I wondered how long my boobs would have to be smooshed against him–literally. The hug went on for a long time, and it felt weird to hug a guy so close to my own height (he claims 5’4″, but he exaggerated).

Not an hour later, he wanted to know when we’d next hang out. Truthfully, I didn’t see him as much of a friend or a romantic partner. I wanted to let him down easily, but I also accidentally erased his number and lost his messages. After a few days, he messaged again. I took the time to explain that I didn’t feel any chemistry, but he tried to save face by explaining how he was easily entertained and just wanted to hang out.
I haven’t replied to him since. I’ve been busy moving–it went okay!–and hadn’t given it much thought. I suppose I gave him all the consideration that I could have, but I’ve never been in this situation before. At the very least, I wanted to try being friends with the guys I’d dated. He just didn’t cut it.

I suppose the bright side is that I’m a great first date. LOL. People want to see me again, even when I feel like it’s apparent we have no chance at being even friends. I entertain them. It gave me a boost in my confidence. Is that good enough? *wink wink* LOL. :P